Fr Paddy ByrneAs we journey through life often unknowingly we find ourselves letting go.

One of the great contemporary saints Padre Pio, reflected about how necessary it is to let go.

My past life I give to your mercy o Lord, my future life I give to your providence, Today let me live in your love

Fr Paddy Byrne has a weekly column in the Carlow Nationalist.
This column appeared on 14 May 2008

As we journey through life often unknowingly we find ourselves letting go, of things, of emotions, of friendships and indeed loved ones. In many ways life itself is a continuous process of letting go, in order to begin again. This process begins with birth itself letting go of the warmth and safety of the womb in order to embrace and begin the experience of life on the “Outside”. Letting go embraces every step that is the journey of our human condition and brings with it all the emotional felt experience that accompanies us all on our fragile pathway as we walk through life itself.

At times letting go can be easy or indeed something to be looked forward too; moving on from our studies to a workplace that has new opportunities. However the more significant moments of letting go are much more challenging and indeed a painful process that can be hugely emotional.

Letting go doesn’t mean we don’t care. Letting go doesn’t mean we shut down. Letting go means we stop trying to force outcomes and make people behave in a way we would like them too. It means we give up resistance to the way things are, for the moment. It means we stop trying to do the impossible, controlling that what we cannot, and instead focus on what is possible, which usually means taking care of ourselves. We do this in gentleness, kindness, and love, as much as possible.

Often we find as result of loosing it may be very difficult to let go. We hold fast by letting go. We become something new by ceasing to be something old. For me this is close to the mystery that is life itself. I once visited a very wise elderly person who had reflected much on the mystery of life and I wrote down a very powerful statement that she expressed close to her death.

” I know no more now than I ever did about the far side of death as the last letting go of all, but now I know, and that I do not need to be afraid of knowing. God knows that all matters.”

The greatest thing is, at any moment, to be willing to give up who we are in order to become all that we can be. This is a very hopeful invitation that is realized through God in our lives. We all need to let go. Many of our lives may be bruised or indeed scared by baggage that has weighed us down and limits our desire and indeed potential to grow into a space of freedom and contentment. In this regard there is an enormous desire for healing in all our hearts. Healing is that very beautiful process of letting go with peace in order to begin again in the new life and opportunities that God has ordained for us this day.

One of the great contemporary saints Padre Pio, Known for his ministry that continues to bring healing to the most wounded reflected about how necessary it is to let go. He was very concerned that so many people were weighed down by the burdens of the past and overwhelmed with anxiety regarding the future. His prayer is a prayer I use every day and I suggest you who read this article to pray it regularly. “My past life I give to your mercy o Lord, my future life I give to your providence, Today let me live in your love”